I recently surveyed my followers asking them what their biggest struggle in life was. I was expecting a lot of insecurity, self-sabotage, and a general lack of self-love....but what I actually found out was really fascinating.
When I asked "If I could wave my wand and fix any problem you have right now, what would it be?"
Over 75% of the responses we're about finding purpose.
"I want to understand why I'm on here on this planet."
"I feel so lost and I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing with my life."
"I don't believe in myself and I'm too afraid to go after my dreams and live my purpose."
Damn! That's a lot of lost souls floating around in the world!
I get the frustration, though. I've personally contemplated the idea of purpose a great deal within the last six months and I've finally defined it in a way that makes me personally feel really good.
That's the beautiful thing about life.
We get to decide how we define things like purpose, success, and happiness. Don't let anyone tell you anything differently. So, if my definition of purpose gels with you, cool. If not, also cool. You are the conscious creator of your life.
All I'm trying to suggest here is if you're feeling stressed and anxious about finding your purpose, maybe you don't need a dramatic sign from the universe guiding you in the right direction. Maybe you just need a switch in perspective.
But, back to the problem at hand....or what millennials have made a problem....PURPOSE. It's a big word with a lot of punch behind it. When someone mentions it, we feel our stomachs drop and immediately start regretting the last six Friday nights we've spent binge watching Netflix.
We start to wonder.....What IS my purpose? Why AM I here?
So, what do we do when we don't know an answer? Go to social media to find the answer.
And that's when we see that guy who left his corporate job who's now drinking coconuts in Bali working as a freelancer. We see the girl who overcame an addiction and is now a yoga and wellness professional. We see that #wanderlustcouple helping build homes in some third-world country we've never heard of.
And we panic.
"Damn! These people are living their PURPOSE! They must feel so content, inspired, and happy. No wonder I feel like shit....I'm not living my purpose! I need to find my purpose and make it happen!"
So we get self-help books, turn inwards, follow others for inspiration, and are getting jazzed up to take life by the horns. We don't know what it looks like yet, but we're hungry to find it.
Maybe we have a small inkling of an idea of a cause we want to support or a business we want to launch, but as soon as we really consider leaving our stable jobs with benefits and a 401k, we clamp up and hit with some intense feelings of shame.
Because nowadays, it's cool to leave your job. It's cool to be an soulful entrepreneur. It's cool to be different. Meaning, anyone who sticks to the mundane, corporate structure is....not cool. Or so social media has made it seem.
So, what started out as a meaningful pursuit to bring more clarity, contribution, and passion to our lives has now turned into yet another thing our ego wants to attach to. An identity. A way to get money. A way to feel validated.
The problem with this new purpose paradigm is that it makes us believe that purpose is something outside of ourselves. Purpose is something we get. Purpose is something we monetize. Purpose is something we can post on Instagram so everyone can tell us how awesome we are.
And that's not what purpose is. At all. At least, according to my working definition of it.
Purpose is who we are, not what we do. Purpose is the way that we show up to life everyday. Purpose is being kind to one another, speaking our truth, being grateful for life, and living with intention. Purpose is awakening to our conscious power, moving away from our egos, and going after our dreams.
Wait, what? Going after our dreams?! I THOUGHT YOU SAID I DIDN'T HAVE TO LEAVE MY CORPORATE JOB?!
Simmer down. No one's taking away your retirement plan or free lunches every Wednesday.
Purpose is in motion, not static. It's not something you achieve and throw on your wall. It's how you're consciously choosing to live your life everyday.
Our spiritual purpose is to awaken to consciousness and see that love is all we have. And if we are choosing to live from this knowing, there's no reason as to why we wouldn't go after our dreams. Because then we'd be living in fear.
And aside from that...going after your dreams and getting passionate about something creates a sense of living, fulfillment, and joy that makes life worth living.
Does this mean you need to uphaul your life and start your own business? Absolutely not. But, maybe you can start to quiet down your chatter brain for a moment and ask yourself of a small dream you have that you can start working towards.
Learning to play guitar, hosting a refugee family, traveling somewhere new, writing a book, etc.
It doesn't matter what you do. Or if you "achieve" whatever goal you associate with it. It's simply the pursuit of something your heart feels called towards.
It's waking up every single day and knowing that you are blessed beyond belief and have the power to create anything you want in this world. It's about choosing to be a good person and live life on purpose. It's about being excited to show up and give back and experience everything life has to offer.
Your purpose does not have to be your paycheck. Your purpose does not have to be something you show off to the world. Your purpose is nothing outside of you. It is you. It's the divine light, love, and creativity inside of you right here in this moment.
And if you commit to placing your hand on your heart every day, closing your eyes, taking a deep breath, and ask "How can I live from my soul today?" You'll know why you're here.