Think back to a time when someone surprised you. Maybe your parents got you an incredible gift you were never expecting for Christmas. Maybe your significant other surprised you with a dream vacation. Remember the way you felt in that moment. Excited. Happy. Full of love and gratitude.
Imagine if we lived our lives seeking this same feeling in every part of our lives; career, relationships, home, etc.
Nowadays.... people get off on planning. We want to know where we'll be in 5, 10, and 20 years. We want to know if the person were dating has potential to be our husband/wife. We want to know what were eating for lunch, what were doing this weekend, and how were going to fill our iPhone calendars with for the week ahead. Fail to plan, plan to fail, right? And I get it. I mean...it works, right? We get things done. Were efficient. And that's cool....but, is that all there is to life? Being efficient and crossing things of our to do lists?
I think the real beauty lies in the unpredictability of life. When we realize we have no control over our lives, we can be present and experience joy and gratitude in every moment. We don't experience the pain of disappointment because we aren't attached to any outcome. We approach life with a sense of easy, curiosity and joy.
If were hyper-vigillant about planning... it's impossible for us to stay present. Were on the date thinking in our head "Would my friends like him?" or "I hope he's a good kisser" instead of trying to make an authentic connection with the person in front of us. Were at the gym thinking "I need to push through 30 more minutes" or "I'll have my dream body in 6 weeks from now" instead of taking the time to feel our body move and appreciate its strength.
The funny thing is... when we actually let go of planning and live in the present moment, we experience so much more happiness than we ever dreamed possible. Because the present moment is where joy lives.
When we feel joy, we create a vibration in our bodies that grabs the attention of the universe. This positive vibration sends a signal saying that we are happy for what we have and are ready to receive more. But, when were anxious about our future and focusing on what we don't already have, were actually attractive more negativity and lack in our lives.
This might sound woo-woo if you're unfamiliar with the Law of Attraction, but I promise you, this is real shit. If I've learned anything for certain within my spiritual journey, its that you attract the energy you give out.
So, what if we leaned into this idea? What if we accepted the universal truth that life is inherintely out of our control and the only thing we can control is the way we feel?
Because no matter how hard we try, we will never be able to control the outcome of our lives. You can be skinny, tan, and beautiful and your husband could still cheat on you. You can be drinking green juice and doing yoga every morning and still get cancer. You can be smart, hard-working, and deserving, but the guy who takes a 3-hour lunch break could still gets the promotion instead of you. We can't stop bad shit from happening. But, we can stop the intense suffering we experience we have when we have the belief that we can control the outcome of our lives.
When we accept this truth, not only will we ease the anxiety and depression we feel when bad shit happens to us, but we will feel immense joy when good things do happen to us.
Imagine feeling the way you felt on Christmas morning opening that gift every single day. Because you can. When you choose to surrender and trust the ebb and flow of life, you will feel surprised, elated, and grateful for the good things that come to you.
So, let's all take off our planner pants for a minute. Take a minute to think about the areas in your life that you're over-thinking and the outcomes you're attached to. Release them. Right now. Trust that the universe already has a plan laid out for you. And you don't need to work 60 hours a week or cross everything of your to-do list to get to it. Just lean into it.